Just like Santa you need to check your list! You can go from naughty to nice ...in how you speak to yourself!
So often we are our own worse critics and not only are we our own critics we have chatter happening in our brain that is not nice! The manner we talk to ourselves is just downright nasty, mean, and yes, naughty. Have you ever paused and thought, What if I praised myself? What if I spoke to myself nicely? What if I stopped beating myself up? What would happen? I can tell you what would happen... you would walk a little taller, smile a little bigger, laugh a little more and you would be able to be even nicer to others. You see, the way you treat yourself also sets the tone for the way others treat you. You will gain more confidence and you will even become healthier. You see being kind to yourself contributes to happiness. Being happy means you are not stressed. Living a stress-free life means you will be healthy. What do you have to lose? What if you changed your thoughts about yourself? According to research done at the mayo clinic, the health benefits include:
Increased life span
Lower rates of depression
Lower levels of distress
Greater resistance to the common cold
Better psychological and physical well-being
Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress
Here is how to turn your naughty self-talk into nice self-talk and get on Santa's nice list. Who do you think you are? You are someone that is totally capable and willing to __________________ I can't do it... Here is an opportunity that could be fun and the worst-case scenario is I learn something. I am not ______ enough. Enough is enough. I am me and that is enough. I am _________ enough. I have unique qualities and I know how to use them. I am so stupid. Oopsie. Let me try again. I hate how my body looks. I am thankful that my body works for me, every single inch of my body works for me in a good way. This is too hard for me to do. Let me try another way. I never get anything right. I haven't figured this out, yet. I don't know if that will work for me. Let me take a chance. I am too fat/skinny. I am just the right size for me today. I am too old/young. Age is a state of mind and I choose to be in just the right state. I've messed up too much to start over, again. Yes, I take responsibility for my action. Here is my plan to move forward. The key to transforming the way you speak to yourself is to be aware you are doing this. Once you are aware you do this, acknowledge what you are doing and that is not beneficial for you. If you heard someone speaking to your child, friend, parent, or even your pet like this, would you say stop them from saying things that hurtful? And would you go to your child, friend, parent or pet and say...those things are not true, don't listen to them, you are ____ and reiterate the positive? You more than probably would. So do that with yourself. In fact, give your "naughty self talker" a name. Make it a fun name, like Jo-Jo, Binky, Brutus, or whatever you choose... And the next time you start the naughty talk about yourself say, Jo-Jo, I hear you and that is enough, it is time to stop. Then let your nice self-talk take over! Now hopefully you can stay on Santa's nice list!